Self Love

Beautiful

“Beautiful”

[Spoken] Don’t look at me

Every day is so wonderful Then suddenly it’s hard to breathe. Now and then I get insecure From all the pain, I’m so ashamed. I am beautiful no matter what they say. Words can’t bring me down. I am beautiful in every single way. Yes, words can’t bring me down… Oh no. So don’t you bring me down today.

As sung By Christina Aguilera

If you….like me…have undervalued yourself for far too long and have allowed other people’s opinions of you to mean more than your own opinion of yourself. THAT is a hard truth you must come to grips with. You must recognize that you are truly the only real constant in your life. Everyone else can come and will come and go. Whether they are dear friends, beloved family members or your chosen mate, they can be gone from your life between one breath and the next. We are the blood we cannot walk away from. We should be our own support systems. We ourselves are the friends we must not ignore.  And yet we are our own worst critics when we should become our own best cheer leaders. Not just in word but in deed.

A while back I saw a trailer for a movie called “The Incredible Mr. Ripley” with my best friend. It was about a young man that completely made himself over in order to assume a lifestyle to which he has grown accustomed. As we watched it we became fascinate with the idea of making ourselves over. Not in order to usurp someone else’s life but to improve upon our own. After the movie, over dinner we designed our new lives. Our “look”, or lifestyle, how we would walk, talk, shop, dress, everything about ourselves. We were going to work on that. Set time tables, toasted our future selves but like many other plans we’d made, life got in the way.

 I submit to you that we were not going to impersonate anyone else. Many of us HAVE been impersonating someone else all this time. WE have been impersonating the women our parents groomed us to be, circumstances bullied us into being, or that life coerced us into being. Ding! They won round one. Round two belongs to us!

Our commitments must be to ourselves. We must be answerable to our own highest purposes, our own deepest desires and our own best interests. Only THE MOST HIGH’s purposes, desires and interests should supersede them. If fear is holding you back then recall that much quoted poem:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

Wear these words as a breast plate and shield and prepare to do battle with your own demons, in spite of the obstacles whether real or imagined. I understand those obstacles in you because I recognize them in me. But I am making a concerted effort to see “Nia” as my client, my first priority from a coaching standpoint. I say to myself…would you accept this kind of “run for cover” from a client? Wouldn’t you expect and therefore push a client to be her best, brightest, highest version of herself? Well the answer to that is yes. So I force myself to look in the mirror. And I force myself to see the reflection looking back at me. I can’t always do it for long but I do it. The demons of uncertainty and doubt blink back at me. Confused because they no longer have the power over me they once did. I’m making peace with the “me” that I am in order to embrace the “me” I am choosing to become.

And everywhere we go (and everywhere we go)

The sun will always shine (the sun will always, always shine)

And tomorrow we might wake on the other side

We are beautiful no matter what they say

Yes, words won’t bring us down, no, no

We are beautiful in every single way

Yes, words can’t bring us down, oh, no

So don’t you bring me down today

Oh, yeah, don’t you bring me down today, yeah, ooh

Don’t you bring me down ooh… today

 

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http://www.mydoterra.com/bwl

 

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Body

Let’s Sweat!

Sweat

“Come on let’s sweat, baby Let the music take control Let the rhythm move you Sweat, sweat Let the music take control Let the rhythm move you

Everybody dance now …”

*Chorus from Everybody Dance Now by C+C Music factory*

Everywhere you turn these days people are offering better health and touting the benefits of a detox or a cleanse, including Be Well Lioness! We offer a number of detox options for our clients and for several good reasons. Some are meant to prep for weight loss programs or other lifestyle changes. Others are meant to eliminate foods or behaviors that are problematic for the client. Detox has become an all encompassing catch phrase that sells any number of “health-related” programs, products or packages. By definition a detox is a metabolic process or period of time in which one abstains from or rids the body of toxic or unhealthy substances in order to allow toxins to become less toxic or more easily eliminated from the body.

From a nutritional standpoint detoxes may include herbal supplements to help with digestion and (ahem) elimination of the offending substances from the body. Ideally, they also include ingestion of a very clean diet made up primarily of dark leafy greens and other organic (not chemically treated fresh produce) eaten or liquefied into smoothies or juices. Breaking down the toxins in your body is one part of the process. Elimination is another. If you don’t pass them through they would simply be re-absorbed. Numerous trips to the bathroom may be annoying but they are necessary.

Some coaches, and other health care professionals suggest sauna or steam bath to get you to sweat. If you’re going to be on a cleanse or detox your goal is to eliminate toxins. Your skin is the largest organ in your body & the largest outlet for toxins. It makes sense to sweat it out.

Light to moderate exercise will do that as well in addition to burning calories (If you’re interested in that sort of thing.) and according to the CDC 35% of adults could stand to lose a few extra pounds with another 33% defined as obese. But not to digress. Exercise will help you sweat.

And after a good work out or sauna or whatever it is you do to work up that sweat you probably drool at the thought of a good bath or shower, which is a great way to shower away all those purged toxins. But what good does it do to eliminate all those toxic substances from your system if you’re just going to put more in by means of chemically laden, synthetic hormone filled personal hygiene products?

Several companies have come up with less toxic and therefore less offending options. I urge you to check out the EWG’s (Environmental Working Group’s) website at www.ewg.org and do a bit of research on their Cosmetics database. They call it skin deep and it is well worth bookmarking it!

Another option is making your own personal hygiene products using essential oils and other natural ingredients that will care for, nourish and moisturize your skin without adding to your toxic load. It’s simple and surprisingly inexpensive.

Here… let me get you started:

Mane2Tale Moisturizing Body Wash

Ingredients

  • ⅔ cup liquid castile soap
  • 2 teaspoons oil – avocado, jojoba, sweet almond
  • 1 teaspoon Vitamin E oil
  • 50 drops essential oils (I use a combo of lavender, rose, geranium and frankincense.)*
  • 10 drops of optional essential oils (I’m using a combo of grapefruit, lemon and wild orange)*

 

Directions

The product will last longer if no water is added but I tend to make mine in smaller batches and add some water because the thicker it is the more water it takes to wash it all off and I prefer a lighter lather. Squirt top bottles work best. Shake gently before each use.

Checkout this site to purchase your essential oils http://www.mydoterra.com/bwl/

 

 

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http://www.mydoterra.com/bwl/

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General Thoughts, Lioness Lessons Series, Toxin Free

90 Day Ready 2 Roar!

I woke up this morning humming “Happy” by Pharrell. Reached over and turned off my alarm clock and searched my ipad for my motivation playlist so that Pharrell could sing it to me while I slithered into my leggings and struggled to get my sports bra over the girls. I was prepared for an incline workout on my treadmill. No need for speed with this workout. This was purely about increasing my endurance, building my strength and…ahem…building my booty. Now I have to tell you that for the last few weeks I’ve worked out in my pajamas without much enthusiasm. Just enough energy expended to say I did it… if anybody asked.

 

But this morning, Friday, August 1st is a momentous occasion for me and for my coaching practice. The Be Well Lioness! 90 Day Ready2Roar  Beta test starts today!

 

I piloted a similar program the last year and it was quite successful with every one of my clients seeing real results. But I’ve learned so much more since then and I felt there was more work to be done. So I tightened it up. Added additional modules to the group sessions and made it more interactive. Yes. We’ll discuss nutrition. Yes. We’ll discuss exercise but we’ll work on stress reduction, the importance of positive relationships and the role toxins play in affecting health as well.

 

Be Well Lioness! 90 Day Ready2Roar looks like this:

It’s a 12 week program that consists of a cleanse to get everyone started. Followed by a clean eating, plant based meal plan which eliminates dairy, gluten and sugar in order to balance blood glucose, cool the body’s inflammatory responses, increase energy and as a side effect, promotes weight loss.

Group coaching occurs twice monthly and each group coaching session will deal with a different aspect of wellness.

  1. Clean Eating
  2. Goal Setting – Managing Expectations
  3. Physical Activity
  4. Avoiding Toxins
  5. Stress Management
  6. Identifying Toxic Relationships

It includes a Farmer’s Market tour, a quick and easy cooking demo and a discussion of budget friendly ways to live healthfully.

 

Generally  this program is directed at clients who are dealing with weight issues of 30lbs or more or a chronic health issue that can be addressed by life style adjustments ie Type 2 diabetes, hypertension, obesity.

 

So far my PRIDE is excited and motivated. But I know this is only day one and change for them and for me isn’t always pretty, or fun, or easy. Wish us success. I’ll keep you posted!

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Body, Toxin Free

Pardon the Interruption…Uh Disruption

Many of the chemicals in our personal environments have been proven to be endocrine disruptors. The National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences defines endocrine disruptors as “Endocrine disruptors are chemicals that may interfere with the body’s endocrine system and produce adverse developmental, reproductive, neurological, and immune effects in both humans and wildlife.” This system literally affects every aspect of a human’s existence and should be of particular importance to those raising children.

The WHO (World Health Organization) informs us that pregnant women and small children are the most vulnerable members of society to environmental toxins and anything that stands between us and the proper functioning of our hormones. Affecting healthy growth, neurodevelopment and maybe even causing them to be more susceptible to non-communicable diseases. http://www.who.int/ceh/risks/cehemerging2/en/#

Last Saturday I woke up in a potion making mood. There was cleaning that needed to be done but I don’t ever want to add to the toxic load in my household. I desperately want to protect my growing nieces, my elderly dad and my adult offspring whenever and where ever possible.

My nieces are six years old and still have a lot of growing to do. I feel compelled to do all I can to make their home as toxin free as possible. Insulin, leptin and ghrelin are all hormones that affect appetite and metabolism. We have a family history of diabetes and obesity. I don’t want history to repeat itself.

My adult daughters may want to reproduce at some point. I don’t want to contribute to the toxic load they may already be dealing with and I know that one of the key ways to “DE-tox” is to prevent or hinder as many new toxins as possible from entering them and causing road blocks to their wellness.

Environmental toxins are also a danger to my sons and son-in-law. According to the Men’s Journal, prostate cancer may be triggered by the chemical BPA which is probably the most well known endocrine disruptor. In addition to cancer causing BPA, other toxins have been shown to affect male reproduction. Before you decide reproduction is only a female issue…think again. In 40% of those couples dealing with fertility issues it is a joint problem or the man’s fertility is the primary dysfunction. http://www.mensjournal.com/health-fitness/health/toxins-the-environment-and-your-health-20140319

And then there’s my dad. He’ll be 78 in August. The website for Centre for Studies on Human Stress states “Older adults’ bodies contain a lifetime’s worth of environmental contaminants, many of which can remain in their systems for decades. Elderly people are highly vulnerable to these toxins, because their brain has a reduced capacity to compensate for impairment, and because they have been longer exposed than younger adults.”http://www.humanstress.ca/stress-and-you/elders-and-stress/environmental-toxins.html

I know I can’t protect them from every chemical they may come in contact but I can certainly do more to control what toxins are in our home. So Saturday I went to the kitchen with my potion making supplies in hand. And with one twin on each side of me I made up a batch of Pride Lands All Purpose Cleaner. In addition to being a cleaner non-toxic product, making my own gives me an opportunity to use essential oils that lift my mood and energize me which is just what I need when I’m cleaning since it’s not my favorite thing to do. Come to think of it just knowing I’m protecting my loved ones, my Pride, improves my mood too!

Pride Lands All Purpose Cleaner

1 tsp borax

1/2 tsp washing soda

1 tsp liquid castille soap

Essential oils* – (I find that citrus oils work best…lemon, orange, grapefruit or some combo)…14 drops plus 4 if you like your clean scented.

2 cups of purified warm water

Add to spray bottle (preferably glass as citrus reacts to plastic over time).

Cover bottle and shake well.

Use as needed.

Works well in bathrooms, kitchens and other solid non-porous surfaces.

 

 

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Lioness Lessons Series

Crazy Busy Is Just Plain Crazy

The last 6 weeks or so of my life have been crazy busy…with the emphasis on crazy.
Planning for seminars and workshops followed by conducting them. Webinars and teleconferences to work out plans to enhance my website and add elements to my wellness practice. Dance class for the twins and rehearsals for their dance showcase sometimes 3 or 4 of those per week. Then there were Kindergarten field trips, pediatric appointments, costume fittings, photo shoots for promotional materials for the aforementioned dance showcase…for them…not me. And then there were events to check out potential new schools, end of year parties with their classmates and 2 out of town weddings.

Every single week was crammed so full that I was up by 4 every morning and couldn’t seem to shut it down before 11 and believe me I tried.
My schedule was so full that I was forced to do something I abhor. I had to go to the side of my closet where I hide all my dresses. I HATE dresses! This isn’t just a case of preferring pants. I have to meditate before putting on a dress just to calm my anxiety enough to seriously consider it. But I was soooooo busy that I didn’t have time to do laundry. So with a shortage of clean clothes available to me I had to do the unthinkable…wear a dress. Not one or 2 but several. In fact I have worn a dress or skirt every day but one for the last 2 weeks. *Sob*

I have gleaned several very important lessons from this:

  • Never, ever get so busy that there is no room in your schedule for personal care.
    Of course I knew this before. This is a topic I discuss extensively with my wellness clients. There really can be no substantial improvement in health & wellness if there is no room in your life to take care of you. I’m not just talking about a missed mani/pedi here & there. I’m talking rest, relaxation, exercise, proper nutrition and as it turns out laundry. This is a lesson where I am remedial. Or cyclical in my case. Periodically I just plain forget about me. Scandalous? Yes I know but not all that uncommon for women.
  • When you are a parent (or parenting) or have older parents of your own that you are caring for you are not the only one scheduling your time.
    Yes. I know I should have taken this into consideration. But I didn’t …clearly. This is my round two of parenting. I haven’t had to figure out how to schedule around classes, pediatricians and ll things elementary school for almost 20 years. The trick to this is to take all the printed out schedules from all the twins activities, my father’s activities and add them to my calendar on my iPad so that they are as integrated as possible with my personal Google Calendar and my business’ MindBody calendar. And yes I’m going to block out some non-negotiable time for me. (That note for my own Peer Coach who would kill me if she knew just how much I neglected me lately. Forgive me Coach.)
  • If I don’t want to be forced to wear dresses I had better either schedule more laundry time or hire somebody to do it for me.
  • Finally…2 weeks of dresses won’t kill me. I do in fact look quite attractive in dresses. A fact, I find both creepy and annoying. That, my friends, is the very definition of crazy!
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First Do No Harm

The words translated “First do no harm” have been attributed to Hippocrates but there has been much debate as to whether this quote came from him, from his “Hippocratic Oath” or from some other source. Quite frankly, as a Wellness professional, it matters very little to me when, where or who spoke the words. The concept is sound. And it is for that reason I am a proponent of Holistic wellness, natural and integrative approaches to health care.

Most prescription pharmaceuticals and OTC (over the counter) products have a host of side effects and contraindications while taking the drugs and another set that may occur as you try to wean yourself from them. Some cause symptoms that may require you to take yet another drug to deal with the symptoms caused by the first drug.

Dr. Mercola’s website lists these 26 “terrifying” side effects:

  1. Drainage, crusting, or oozing of your eyes or eyelids
  2. Swollen, black, or “hairy” tongue
  3. Changes in the shape or location of body fat
  4. Decrease in testicle size
  5. Sores or swelling in your rectal or genital area
  6. Blue lips or fingernails
  7. Purple spots on your skin
  8. White patches or sores inside your mouth or on your lips
  9. Irregular back-and- forth movements of your eyes
  10. Enlarged breasts in males.
  11. Unusual risk-taking behavior, no fear of danger
  12. Extreme fear
  13. Hallucinations, fainting, coma
  14. Fussiness, irritability, crying for an hour or longer
  15. Paralysis
  16. Thoracic Hematoma (bleeding into your chest)
  17. A blood clot in your lung
  18. Liver damage
  19. Kidney damage
  20. A lump in your breast
  21. Decreased bone marrow function
  22. Congestive heart failure
  23. Shingles
  24. Nerve pain lasting for several weeks or months
  25. Bleeding that will not stop
  26. Coughing up blood or vomit that looks like coffee grounds

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2008/04/12/the-terrifying-side-effects-of-prescription-drugs.aspx

Let’s take depression for example. This is a condition that is becoming more commonplace in our fast-paced and stressful lives. Most folk feel a little blue now and again and some suffer from depression. Many doctors will prescribe depression meds for what may be relatively mild cases. A common drug prescribed is Cymbalta®. Possible side effects from the drug are:

Worsening depression, other psychiatric conditions, suicidal thoughts or actions, panic attacks, trouble sleeping, irritability, hostile actions, impulsivity, severe restlessness.

Admittedly depression can be very debilitating and it isn’t something anyone would want to deal with in the long term. It can be a chronic condition not just an occasional mood disturbance. We are talking about more than the blues. And in many cases an allopathic medical intervention is called for but there are much more natural, holistic approaches that can be considered to lessen the need for or the amount of medication taken.

  • Exercise is a tremendous help and it doesn’t have to be strenuous Iron man type training. Regular aerobic type for 20 minutes per day at least 3 times per week will do the trick.
  • Meditation activities including Tai Chi, guided or mindful meditation, yoga or repetitive prayer.
  • A personal spiritual practice has been found to reduce stress that may cause or exacerbate depression.
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Body, Brain

Slide Some Oil To Me!

“Slide Some Oil To Me”

Slide some oil to me Let it trickle down my spine If you don’t have S.T.P. Crisco will do just fine Slide some to my elbows And to my fingers if you would Slide some oil to me, girl Whoo! Don’t that feel good! Slide some oil to my feet, look I got toes again Come on and slide some oil to my knees And let me see if I can bend Slide some oil to me I’m beginning to feel just fine Slide some oil down my throat And let me lubricate my mind Slide some oil to me Go ahead, hit my shoulder blades Those who don’t have to lubricate Sure got it made Slide some oil to me Let it slip down my side Laying there in one position Sure does make me tired Now watch me dance! And let me lubricate my mind

 

From The Movie “The Wiz” as taken from the website http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/dianaross/slidesomeoiltome.html

 

Shhhhhhhhh! I have a confession to make. I am relatively new to how amazing and vast the uses of essential oils are. Don’t get me wrong there are a few I’ve been using for years with great success but I just never thought of how many there are or how many other things they could be used for.  A lot of the wellness coaches and alternative health professionals I work with have been using them for a long time for therapeutic uses. Many have found them to be very effective with little or no side effects in their own practices. I’m not sure why I wasn’t on this bandwagon sooner. I can’t recall anyone ever telling me just how beneficial they could be for health and wellness applications. Maybe everyone assumed I already knew. But I’ll admit it. I didn’t know the extent of the wonders of oils. But now I know and I want to share what I’ve learned.

There are quite a few big and complicated definitions of essential oils with big multi-syllabic words that are all accurate but…well…big and complicated. So let’s go with this more user-friendly one:

Essential oils are the natural compounds that come from the bark, roots, seeds, stems or flowers of plants that give them their distinctive aromas. These oils just happen to have some remarkable properties other than their smells. You are probably already familiar with a few of the basic citrus based ones if you have ever squeezed a lemon to make lemonade or peeled an orange before eating it. That clear shiny liquid on your hands was the essential oil of those fruits. They are called oils but they are in fact not oily like the animal fats or like the cooking oils most of us are more familiar with.

Essential oils have been in use for millennia and two of the most famous are frankincense and myrrh. Christian tradition tells us that these oils were brought to the bedside of Jesus when he was a babe and given to him as a sign of deep respect. They were a precious gift even then, expensive and rare. We know that the Egyptians used them for their antimicrobial properties during mummification to preserve the bodies of the honored dead as well as for their healing and curative properties. Alabaster jars containing trace amounts of many of the oils used have been found in tombs largely unchanged from when they were originally stored thousands of years ago. The uses of these oils were passed on to later civilizations such as the Greeks and Romans in turn. Ancient Asian cultures in China and India and in many ancient cultures in Africa used essential oils widely and have continued to do so.

It has long been established that scent is a powerful force in our mood and on our sense of well-being. In our modern world we are bombarded with artificial fragrances in every aspect of our lives from our cleaning products to our personal care products. These substances are synthetic hormones meant to make us “feel” good so we’ll choose one product over another but there are consequences to allowing ourselves and our hormone receptors to be manipulated by these synthetic products and those consequences are NOT better health or more wellness.

Now that we are faced with a world where so much of what touches us daily is toxic, many wellness professionals and Integrative medical doctors are turning to these natural products to solve many of our issues in ways that won’t add to our toxic load. That’s the part that matters most to me since one of the key ways I assist my own clients is in dealing with all the aspects of their wellness. After all it makes very little sense to me “Eat well” and “Move Well” in an attempt to “Be Well” if we don’t address the damage being done by subjecting ourselves to toxins.

Now that I’ve told you why essential oils excite me I would like to extend an invitation for you to join me over the next couple of weeks for a discussion of what essential oils can do for you and your family and some ways of bringing more of these amazing benefits into your home and your life. Maybe once this series is complete you’ll want someone to “slide some oil” to you too.

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